Updated: May 7, 2020
Wedding planning isn't easy, and its not something you've had practice for...
... So here are 25 Mistakes to Avoid:
1) Put Yourself and Your Partner First
What theme do you want? What venue style stands out to you? What ideas do you have?
Sit back and take some time to think about what you truly want, write some ideas down before you look on social media. My suggestion is checking out Pinterest - https://www.pinterest.co.uk/misscarlysleandco/wedding-style/.
Or even bookmarking blogs - https://blovedblog.com/weddings/modern-rustic-barn-wedding-ideas-nikkis-moments/.
List your priorities and then go from there.
2) Engagement Announcement
Allow yourself and your partner to digest what has happened, its the happiest and most exciting time for you both, so don't account it to the world after 30 seconds. Get all of your family and friends together (where possible) and make the most out of the time as it will be so special. You wouldn't want them to find out through social media!
3) Choosing Your Dream Team
When it comes to choosing your dream team of vendors, make sure you follow their work for a period, make sure you read their reviews and get some recommendations from others.
Only book the vendors and suppliers that make you feel comfortable as they are going to be involved in the biggest day of your life.
(On the day of your wedding, don't forget to feed your vendors - this one is so important)
When booking your vendors, ask as many questions as you want and make sure you do your research as you want to make sure that they are the best for your day that you have been waiting years for, so this decision is massive. The more questions the better, pre-plan beforehand and if you feel you need to ask questions after you have first spoken you can easily email them!
4) Choosing a Wedding Planner...
I hear questions all the time such as 'Do I need a wedding planner', 'What services do planners offer?', "Can planners save you money?' etc...
A wedding planner will become your best friend, dealing with handfuls of unforeseen details that may arise, supplying brides with spreadsheets, attending meetings, the list goes on.
A wedding planner knows all of the tips and tricks when it comes to a wedding day and the planning leading up to the day, don't rule one out because you feel that you can do it all alone.
5) Parental boundaries
I hear stories of brides and grooms stating 'I wish we eloped I can't deal with the family stress', 'I thought this was supposed to be the best day of my life'.
This blog will support you to make sure that this does not happen to you, your family and friends are going to want to help you but you need to make it clear from day one that it is your special day. Boundaries need to be set.
6) Save the dates
Please don't assume that people will say no and that you decide to over invite, because if everyone says yes then you won't be able to accommodate. Therefore, have a plan b in place, where guests can tell you early on that they are unable to attend and you are able to give their place to someone else.
As long as you don't tell anyone that you have a plan b then no issues with be caused.
For more stationery advice, check out my guest blog by Clare Gray Designs -
Make a list of who you want to be invited, follow a pathway of who you truly want at your wedding and for your partner to do this as well, if you don't want someone there then don't feel that you need to invite them.
You have to remember, this is your special day, and you want to share it with the closest people in your life.
During your special day, try to chat to everyone, don't forget they have all travelled to come and spend this day with you, even if its for a brief spell, any effort. Not only this, please block out time for you and your partner, you don't what to forget what's important as it is the best day of your life.
8) Making Payments
When it comes to making payments for suppliers, if you are deciding to plan your wedding alone then my advice would be to never send money by a bank transfer as you will not be covered. Make sure the supplier has sent you over a contract and has sent you an invoice, you can pay this by credit card or even PayPal.
If you decide to hire a wedding planner then they (such as myself) offer services such as supplier sourcing, which means that you don't have to worry about anything as you know that a professional is dealing with them for you and giving you recommended suppliers who are trustworthy.
9) Decision Making
When making decisions for the biggest and best day of your life, take it one step at a time otherwise it can become very overwhelming, you realise all the planning that needs to take place and you don't know how you are going to be able to complete it all.
Take your time, take the planning at your own pace, work out when you want to complete everything by and then start making your decisions, it gives you targets to meet and you won't be constantly feeling that you haven't done enough as you will be meeting your targets.
10) Invitation Postage
When sending your invitations, send them out in batches (just in case you've missed something off, a bride I know even sent her invitations out with no dates on, and yes that does happen!!!) Double checking is important as you might not realise the size of the invitation you are sending as it might be too big to be send as a letter and this might not be something you think of.
After your wedding, send out thank you letters, to the vendors for their time and effort, and to your guests who attended, they will really appreciate this.
11) Buying your dress
Don't rush this decision, book your venue and choose your wedding theme first, then try on a range of dresses until you find the one...
For more dress advice check out my blog from myself and Anna Wood Bridal.
Leading from this.. don't choose a theme that you aren't happy with, it is yours and your partners choice, make sure you are both happy with any decisions being made every step of the way.
12) Stick to your Budget
Do your research, chat with suppliers and work out how much you can truly afford for your day, make a spreadsheet or even receive one from a wedding planner, once you have settled your budget don't change it. It can easily get out of hand and you might feel that you can afford extra items, but you have set the budget for a reason so don't change it as it can soon add up. Weddings can become expensive every quickly.
13) Book hotel rooms...
Some venues have hotel rooms on site, however some may only have a small amount so hold these rooms back for close friends and family. Ask your venue if they work alongside any hotels near by and if they potentially allow you to have saving rates, if so get some blocked out for your guests (and tell your guests about the rate). When it comes to booking the rooms, my suggestion is for your guests to book their own rooms, otherwise you might get lost in all of the different bookings.
14) Have an unplugged wedding
Having no phones policy at the ceremony as it will look better in the pictures and means everyone can enjoy the time, there is nothing worse than seeing phones in the professional camera shots.
After the ceremony you should try to minimise the time between the ceremony and reception, whether you fill this time with canapés, music, a magician etc, as this can be a long time for your guests to be hanging around waiting.
20) Have a Rain Plan
It’s not fun to think about, but you have to be prepared for inclement weather if you’re having an outdoor wedding. If the venue offers both an outdoor and indoor space, inquire whether the indoor space will be available if the weather turns bad. (Some venues will book multiple events at the same time if space allows.) If you won’t be able to move the event indoors, put a tent on hold or make a back-up plan to move to an entirely new venue. It would also be a great idea to provide umbrellas, ponchos, and blankets for everyone and plastic coverings for decor or food that could be exposed to rain.
At the end of the day, its YOUR wedding day, I can't stress this enough that its yours and your partners day, so make sure it's the way you want it to me.
Wedding and Event Planner Hertfordshire