Hertfordshire based Cake Maker's Shares Tips and Tricks on Choosing your Wedding Cake

Updated: May 12, 2020


When couples come and visit my kitchen for a wedding cake consultation, I always experience a bubble of excitement as I hear their stories about how they met, their engagement and their plans for their wedding.

It takes me straight back to planning my own wedding in 2010.

For my own wedding cake (which I didn’t make - I wanted the run up to my wedding to be as relaxed as possible!) I really wanted personal touches to come through. I used jewellery from both of my late grandmothers for my ‘something old’. I also commissioned sugar figures of myself and my husband with a replica of my hairstyle and wedding dress.

I remember the cake tasting being one of my favourite parts of wedding planning.

Shortly after this I started my journey into cake decorating.

I went on to make many celebration cakes for family and friends. When I had children of my own, I wanted to make their birthday cakes every year. I attended courses to develop my skills and realised I absolutely loved what I was doing.

Eight years later I turned this passion into a business.

I pride myself on my attention to detail, flavours and the finishing of my cakes. Nothing leaves my kitchen until I am confident that my couple will be thrilled with their cake.

I am passionate about creating personal wedding cakes that are bespoke to the couple. At a wedding cake consultation, I ask many questions about their story and their vision for their wedding. I encourage them to bring as much visual reference to their theme with them so I can create a design centred around this.

Whilst they are trying 4 different cake flavours over a glass of bubbly, I create a sketch of the wedding cake whilst they are with me and I will keep refining it until they are happy with it. Once they go on their way (with a box of treats!) I create this sketch into a final design and send it over to them with a full quotation.

I also make sure I am aware of their budget for their cake so I can create a design that is achievable for them.


Two things – the happiness and the creative people.

Weddings are celebrations filled with so much love and happiness. Being part of a couple’s journey planning their wedding is a real privilege. This happiness is definitely infectious, and it is a joy to watch their eyes sparkle with excitement when they talk about their big day.

A couple may also feel slightly overwhelmed at the thought of trusting different suppliers to bring together their vision on the day, usually without meeting each other before hand.

However, suppliers are experienced at bringing a room together and working hard to ensure their part of the big day reflects the brief they have received from the couple. The couple are always at the forefront of their minds and I adore seeing how it all comes together on the day.

I often work together with the florist to ensure that any flowers being supplied for the cake are discussed and organised beforehand, not only so the look of the cake ties in with everything else but so I know when to arrive to set up and where the flowers will be left for me to arrange on the cake. I try to make it as easy as I can for the couple by capturing suppliers details at the wedding cake consultation so that is one less thing for their to do list.


Photography: www.garethjphotography.com

This dark navy four tier cake ‘The Vamp’.

This cake ties in with the romantic gothic theme which compliments crushed velvet, draped deeper coloured fabrics, church candles and bright flowers.

The gold ring in the centre draws the eye to the bright floral details which can complement the table and bouquet arrangements.

This cake makes a statement and is preferred by couples looking for something unique to get their guests talking. A unique wedding cake that turns heads.

Instagram: @garethjphotography


Your wedding is the biggest and most special party you will ever throw, celebrating the love between you both surrounded by your family and friends.

The theme you choose should feel natural for you both. If you have pastel pinks and greys in your home, don’t go for deep red and gold for your wedding. Your wedding should reflect you as a couple, your tastes and interests and be a celebration of your journey.

Personal details can be brought into the cake, table settings and favours. For example, if you have mixed heritage, choose a flower associated with each country. Check out Pinterest and Wedding Magazines to choose colour combinations that complement each other.

The more detail you can give to your wedding suppliers the better. A tight brief of what you are looking for, backed up by visual references mean that you are more likely to see your vision brought to life on the big day.

Similarly though, if you are struggling to visualise a theme, ask your wedding suppliers for examples of past weddings that they have worked on, creating a wedding bespoke to you both is important but there’s nothing like a bit of inspiration.


It is never too early to book in for a wedding cake consultation (I am currently booking weddings up until the end of 2021).

As a wedding cake designer, my dates do go fast as I only take on one wedding cake per week to ensure I can give it my full attention.

I have prepared a blog post on what to expect at a wedding cake consultation which you can read here: (https://kellyscakekitchen.co.uk/latest-news/f/what-to-expect-from-a-wedding-cake-consultation). However, the main things are to try and bring with you an idea of colours, flowers, your theme plus any special touches you’d like to include.

Having an idea on flowers is one of the most important aspects. This is because some flowers cannot be placed onto a cake due to them not being food safe. I wrap all stems in flower tape and use flower pics for inserting into the cake, however some flowers, such as the Cala Lily cannot be placed onto a cake as it is toxic if the pollen is consumed.

If you have your heart set on a particular flower though I can create sugar flowers which tie in with those used by the florist. These are also special to keep after the wedding along with any topper you may choose. I am currently working on a collaboration project with @pencilandprintstore for a keepsake gift item perfect to keep those special elements from your wedding on display. Coming soon!

The main piece of advice would be to enjoy it! Stay organised by writing monthly to do lists and keep track of your budget. This is a party with love at the centre of it so as long as you keep that in mind you won’t go wrong.

Kelly’s Kitchen

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Beth x

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